From when we were babies to hitherto social pressures have forced us into the role of being a man.
We were discouraged to act feminine. It’s part of being socialized.
We learnt this from our parents, teachers, the media, and friends.
Let’s look at an example.
I want you to do something educational: schlep over to a toy store.
You’ll notice that most toys aren’t for boys and girls.
In the boys section you’ll find G.I. Joes, Transformers, and Thomas the Train.
In the girl’s section you’ll find Barbie dolls and Dora the Explorer.
Moreover, these toys are more than playthings. They are heuristic tools for teaching children how to be a man or a woman.
If a boy is caught brushing a Brat doll’s hair his friends will most likely make fun of him and call him a girl.
If his parents catch him, they may punish him. That’s because they fear he won’t be properly inculcated into the role of a man.
This causes boys and men alike to stay clear of acting like a girl.
There’s nothing wrong with this except that some of the best seducers have developed their feminine side. These men are called “Dandies.”
They oscillate between the role of a man and a woman.
In fact, their seductive power lies in that they cannot be categorized as masculine or feminine.
When a person cannot be categorized, they entrance others. We are attracted to those who entrance us.
The famous psychiatrist Dr. Freud famously said that people are bisexual. According to him, all of us are attracted to both males and females.
But social constraints prevent us from acting on these desires.
Women are attracted to the Dandy because he is a woman inside a man’s body.
Dandies are notoriously insolent: they have very little need to please people – especially women. This is another facet of their allure.
Here’s a simple guide to turning yourself into a Dandy: learn to pay attention to the smallest details, develop a disdain for pleasing others, and nurture your feminine side.
Here are a few historical Dandies: Rudolph Valentino, Oscar Wilde, and Andy Warhol.
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